3 powerful steps to ultimate webinar confidence!
Webinars, Livestreams and public speaking can be terrifying; there's no two ways about it!
But you don't have to be paralysed by insecurities, which keep you playing small and prevent you from putting yourself out there!
YOUR INSECURITY - whatever it is - IS NOT THAT BIG A DEAL!
Seriously, I promise, IT’S MORE VISIBLE TO YOU THAN IT IS TO OTHERS! No one else really cares about your spot, because they are too busy thinking about how gorgeously smiley and warm you are; or they find your constant hair-tucking-behing-ear-that-you-hate really like-able, because it’s real and authentic and means that you are just NORMAL (which is so much more easily relatable and trustable than a robot-woman!), or they are totally captivated by your accent because it shows that you have different experiences and influences to bring to the table (plus, if you can deliver a webinar in anything that isn’t your mother tongue, most people will find that HUGELY credible and impressive!)
In 30 years, if someone said to you “Why didn’t you leverage the power of webinars, livestreaming and public speaking to transform your business and help thousands of people?”, is “I was a bit self-conscious” enough of a reason to have stayed stuck and NOT reached your potential??
No. So JUST STOP AGONISING OVER IT.
Honestly, I totally get that that’s easier said than done. I’ve been there!
So here is the strategy that I used to go from ‘Oh God, I’m such a dork’ to lecturing in front of 120 students at a University that I didn’t even get in to!
STEP ONE: DECIDE IF IT IS THAT BIG A DEAL
If it is, make a time-limited, concrete action plan.
Hate your hair? Book a haircut. NOW. Before you read any more. Do it.
Worried about your accent? Resolve to get some help. NOW. Send an email. TODAY.
Resolve to address it, resolve to do what you need to do to overcome it, and take decisive action right away, with a date that it must be sorted by. If it’s not sorted by then you are obliged to LET IT GO! Or at least forget about it and ignore it until it gets sorted but it CANNOT hold you back indefinitely.
STEP TWO: IF IT'S NOT THAT BIG A DEAL, REPLACE IT WITH SOMETHING YOU LIKE (OR EVEN LOVE!) ABOUT YOURSELF
Don’t like your tendency to talk with your hands a lot. Why cares! Someone else will like it, and you don’t have to love every single thing!
Get a piece of paper and write down 3 things that you like about yourself. Maybe it’s your smile. Your eyes. Your simple way of explaining things. Your ability to get right to the point. Your great posture. Your glowing skin.
Now when you watch yourself back, every time you think something negative about your hand-gesturing, FORCE yourself to recognise the thing you like.
So your brain jumps to “Uurgh.. why speech sounds so lispy and hissy” you are going to IMMEDIATELY say to yourself - either in your head or ideally out loud in a strong, belief-filled voice “BUT WHO CARES BECAUSE I AM SO PASSIONATE AND ENGAGING ABOUT MY SUBJECT!” Or maybe it’s “Uhmygod look at that huge spot on my chin”, so your going to go “BUT WHO CARES, LOOK HOW SPARKLY AND BLUE MY EYES ARE!”
Keep doing that and doing that until your brain stops even mentioning that thing you used to worry about. What even was it again? Who cares!
STEP THREE: CHANNEL YOUR FUTURE-YOU!
Close your eyes and take a moment to imagine yourself in the future if all of your dreams had come true. Think about what you’d wear, how you’d move, how you’d smell, where you’d be, how you’d speak if you could fast forward to when you’d already achieved all of your dreams. Imagine the most amazing, polished, fantastic version of you that could possibly exist. Imagine that you are doing what you always dreamed of doing and have achieved unimaginable success. Feel the emotions of that; experience how powerful and confident and put-together you feel and sit with that for at least a minute.
Practice this several times per day until it becomes easier, and then do this for AT LEAST a minute before you begin the webinar.
This is super powerful.
I used to go into the ladies loos on my way to a lecture, spend two minutes imagining myself as an acclaimed published writer, hugely authoritative expert in my field, imagine that I was going into the lecture having just had a professional blow-dry, wearing Louboutins and carrying a Mulberry bag. And it was crazy-effective! My feedback from those lectures was INSANE!
So picture yourself as the founder of a six-figure online coaching business, beginning a webinar to all of your adoring high-ticket VIP clients, or as the leader of your field talking on This Morning about your bestselling book.
Whatever it is, channel your future-you and trust me, you will forget all about anything but your awesome path to success!
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Lizz Summers is an independent voice and presentation skills coach for entrepreneurs who want to be seen and heard in their business to attract their dream clients.
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